Couples therapy research shows that the strongest predictor of successful outcomes isn't the severity of problems but each person's willingness to examine their own contribution. When both partners focus on changing themselves rather than changing each other, transformation becomes possible. The shift from "why won't you change" to "what can I do differently" changes the entire dynamic. It moves from adversarial to collaborative and creates space for both people to grow. ⁣ ⁣ #relationshipadvice